Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year!
As 2014 has ended, 2015 has officially begun bringing with it a batch of fresh starts. At this point in my life, I have many relationships; all are on different levels and require different types as well as amounts of communication. It is with the new year that I am evaluating each relationship determining which ones are important and which are not. I determine this by observing how much each person adds to my life in terms of value.
For example, my siblings add so much value to my life. They bring me joy and laughter, they confide in me, we share our secrets and journeys, and we wish the best for each other. I would never cut them out of my life; no argument could be so serious that I would do so. A friend/acquaintance may be a different situation. I have to ask myself: Is this person genuine? Are their intentions honest? Are they open with me and do not lie to me? If all these are a YES, then I consider how often we talk. Do we both make an effort? Do we click? If all of these are YES, then I’d say this relationship is worthwhile. I value honesty, loyalty, and morality. If you meet that criteria and we are close or in the process of becoming that way, then I don’t see why we wouldn’t be friends.
On the other hand, why should I waste my time on someone who doesn’t really care? Recently, my father -who I love and care about deeply- told me I was being too sensitive because I have expressed that I don’t give a damn about most people. I do not think I am being too sensitive. I know what I want, and I know who I want on that journey with me. Just because you are nice to my face does not mean you will make the cut. I need people who are engaging, intelligent, and not afraid to be who they are. I need people who are unapologetic. I need people on my side.
There is no room for fair weather friends or people who want to take credit for my accomplishments. There is no room for tag-alongs or flakes. You’re with me and ready to fight, or you are not. It’s that simple. I don’t need drama, and I don’t need you.
If that’s not clear enough, please: watch this video.
So, here’s to a new year, a fresh start, a clean slate that won’t be perfect. But, it will be messy and beautiful. I am so happy to spend this new year with my bride-to-be, and I hope our journey brings us closer through the years to come.
I love you, Marianne. I love you, Mom & Dad. I love you, brother and sisters.